Why do men like to propose but moan about planning the wedding?
So guys listen up. For most women being proposed to is one of the highlights of our entire lives. For me it was something I had dreamt about from a very young age having grown up believing I was a princess and I would find my prince charming. Don’t worry I grew out of it sort of. So when the day comes and he pops the question it’s as though a chorus of angels start ringing the bells and we get to think about our big day. For me and probably a lot of women out there our wedding day is right up there as one of the best moments of our lives. That’s a big deal so of course we are going to want to make it perfect. I saw it as the day I would be as close to perfect as I could possibly get from my weight to my hair etc etc, my chance to wow my husband to be with the best version of myself. It is a lot of pressure but surprisingly enough my husband was shielded from most of it.
If you do not care about the details how can you say the day is about the two of you if you are not willing to take the time to decide on a few things with her.
Now to the planning yes there is a hidden gene you do not know about that comes out when the wedding planning begins, it can make some of us go a little nuts but not all. I do understand some of the points raised by you guys such as why ask your opinion about flowers etc but can you honestly say you do not care what she chooses? Picture this you went for the easy path, you told your lady that she could make all the decisions as you would be happy with whatever she chose. On the day your suited and booted with your fellas all looking dapper. You climb out of the limo to find the venue has been transformed into a huge claret and blue bubble which just happens to remind you of your most hated football teams colours. The more you delve into the detail the more you see those colours literally everywhere and the monstrosity of the 4ft tall cake in various shades of pink appalls you. Is this what you want? Because I can promise most ladies do understand the day is not all about them but the two of you. She wants your opinion because she wants you to be happy with the outcome. If you do not care about the details how can you say the day is about the two of you if you are not willing to take the time to decide on a few things with her. Not only will it calm her down if she is stressed she will feel you do care and instead of having the weight of the day solely on her shoulders she will feel it is split between the two of you.
When I got married I made a lot of the decisions purely because I’m a graphic designer and knew exactly what I wanted. But my plan and vision for the day was a fusion of what my husband liked and what I liked. He didn’t come to design the cake with me or pick the flowers, I drew him a couple of cake designs and showed him some flower arrangement ideas but I knew he would be bored stiff if I took him with me. Instead I told him he had to help me with the table names. We went with film names and he loves all things films so he was more than happy to get involved. One of the nice moments was when we designed the table cards together it was a fun and stress free moment and had his stamp all over it so anyone who walked into our marquee would know this was definitely a coming together of two halves rather than one sided.
yes there is a hidden gene you do not know about that comes out when the wedding planning begins, it can make some of us go a little nuts but not all.
So for all you men out there moaning about bridezilla’s try to have some sympathy you know your woman is going to bust a gut trying to make the day as close to perfection as she can get it. To lessen the stress offer to help out where you can and don’t roll your eyes like children if she asks your opinion on a few things because trust me you do not want to have a nasty surprise on the day. The other thing I’d like to point out is some of you are incredibly good at planning taking into account some of the elaborate proposal ideas, now we know you have it in you. Perhaps going to such extremes to put the rings on our fingers was your 1st mistake for it showed us a side of you we might not have seen before but one we’d expect to see during the wedding planning.